There are few things worse in life than feeling as if you’re trapped in a toxic marriage. However, even if you feel as if your marriage isn’t worth salvaging, you can still end it on a positive and healthy note. Acting in a mature manner may help you regain a sense of control over your life, and it may also help you obtain a favorable outcome if your case goes before an Indiana judge.
Be Kind to Your Partner
Even if your spouse doesn’t love you anymore, the divorce process can still cause emotional trauma. Therefore, it’s important to break the news as concisely, honestly and gently as possible. It’s also a good idea to give this person time to ask questions or process the news in his or her own way. This may mean spending a few days away from the marital home so that he or she can digest the news and create a plan for life as a single person.
You’ll need to extend even more kindness to your children
Children tend to have trouble understanding the concept of divorce and the reasons for it. It’s fairly common for kids to believe that they did something to cause the divorce or believe that there is something that they can do to resurrect the marriage. It’s also typical for kids to act out because they don’t have the emotional maturity to express how they feel in a healthy manner. Therefore, it’s especially important that you take the time to convey to your children that you still love them and that you will always be there for them.
A divorce will likely cause you to experience negative emotions such as fear, anxiety or grief. However, you may be able to work through those emotions with the help of a mental health professional. The cost of mental health services for yourself and your children may be included in the terms of a final settlement. You may also receive a share of any assets held inside of the marital estate.